Relationships always ended the same way with Amelia.*
Amelia thought this new relationship would be different from the last one, but slowly she started to see the similarities.
Again, she put her needs last in her relationship and life. She was constantly explaining herself, walking on eggshells, and doing anything to avoid another argument.
Sex was rarely sober these days. Amelia barely felt the knot in her stomach on a good day, but it was always there. And the headaches kept showing up out of the blue. It was exhausting.
Amelia returned to feeling lonely again and trying to figure out a way out of this mess. She didn’t understand why the same patterns kept happening repeatedly. She was angry at herself and irritable with anyone around her.
Divorce seemed like the best option for Sharon.*
Sharon doesn’t know when it happened, but something changed in her marriage. Arguments that they were usually able to settle in the past became personal, and then the name-calling started.
The kids were a source of irritation, and she felt guilty at the end of the day, realizing how many times she had raised her voice. Then, there were all the stressors on top of everything else!
Her youngest was diagnosed with a developmental disability, the basement flooded again, and the cat needed extra care. The financial and emotional stress of it all started feeling too much.
She just wanted to run away and leave it all behind.
With therapy, things changed for Amelia and Sharon.
As we worked together, Amelia began to recognize she was not broken but needed to deal with her unhelpful thought patterns.
She continues to work on building a better relationship with herself first and healing some old wounds. To have a healthy, grown-up relationship, she realizes healing is essential. Now, Amelia is beginning to feel like a whole person.
Through therapy sessions, Sharon realized she was reacting instead of responding to situations. She learned to work with her nervous system to support and calm herself. As a result, Sharon began communicating more effectively with her husband and kids. She felt empowered to ask questions regarding her child’s diagnosis and worked on getting resources for her child and her whole family.
Now, Sharon and her household feel calmer as they navigate a new relationship with one another.
You don’t have to do this by yourself
Sometimes, the past doesn’t stay in the past, and sometimes, the present is filled with trying situations. As a result, negative patterns build up. They are not your fault, and you have tried to break free from them, but it doesn’t work alone.
Therapy for women allows you to work with a skilled clinician who can quickly access and individualize the best approaches to meet your needs.
Through the collaborative therapeutic relationship, I work with women to navigate the roles and responsibilities of being a woman in the modern world and help the body learn to respond to present situations instead of past trauma.
The wisdom is inside you, and cookie-cutter approaches won’t work. I am here to help you reclaim your life and your authentic voice. Reach out now to schedule your free 20-minute consultation. Call (908) 214-7166.
*Names and stories are composite narratives and do not reflect actual clients.